If a person dies does he know who bathed him?
There is a statement which says that the treatment of the dead is like treating the living.
From Jabir ra said, “I came out with the Prophet SAW escorted the corpse, he sat on the edge of the grave and we were too. Then a gravedigger removes a bone (calf or a member) and breaks it (destroys it). So the prophet SAW said, “Do not break that bone. You break even though you have died just the same as you broke while still alive. Immerse it beside the grave. (HR Malik, Ibn Majah, Abu Daud with a saheeh isnad)
This means that the living person has a sense of shame, even the dead have shame. So even though he was dead, when bathing must be closed auratnya.
Mayit can not respond but we are sure he has a sense of shame.
The Companions say when will bathe the Messenger of Allaah shalallahu ‘alaihi wa salam:
الله صلى الله عليه وسلم من ثيابه كما تجرد موتانا
“We do not know whether we took the garments of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) as we removed the garments of those who died among us or not.” (H.R.Ahmad: 6/267 and Abu Dawud: 3141).
This hadeeth indicates that the custom which prevailed in the time of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when will bathe the corpse removing the clothing attached to the body
Then why if we die we should not talk about the bad? Although he had a bad life in life but still we should not talk about the ugliness of the dead.
This is a signal that the deceased share in the feelings of what man has treated him. The expression of a boy’s last love to his parents was to bathe the body of his parents. Very strange if the parents have four children, all scholars but when the parent dies who bathed even others. Childhood or baby when parents often bathe us. This is certainly very alarming. More afdhal parents who died bathed his son.
Therefore, the dead man said Ustadz Aam Amiruddin knew by whom he was bathed. We must have the will to bathe the corpse, at least the parent’s body.